I spent over 13 years in a destructive cult from the age of 21 to 35 and escaped in January, 2010.
I say 'escape', because I was brainwashed into believing that I could not leave. If I did, either my three children would be taken from me, or I would die in Armageddon, prophesised by the cult leader for December 2012.
This may seem odd and bizarre and you may think that I must have been crazy to believe in such nonsense. However, I consider myself to be a normal, everyday person who is intelligent, and yet I found myself in this situation.
People do not join cults. Individuals or families in vulnerable stages of their lives are recruited via manipulative methods to become involved with a seemingly legitimate group.
Cults use mind control techniques including food and sleep deprivation, hypnosis, sensory overload, lies and deception. People are separated from their family and friends and social support network. Before they realise what is happening, the group's indoctrination is ingrained in their psyche through sophisticated thought reform.
They are then trapped in a prison with or without walls, until they are either thrown out, deprogrammed via intervention, or get to a point where their current circumstances are so bad that losing their salvation or the prospect of death is a better alternative.
I was abused by a cult leader who used mind control to yield power, money and glorification within a high demand group. Cult leaders are usually charismatic, narcissistic sociopaths or psychopaths; it is very easy for unsuspecting bystanders to be susceptible to their manipulation and 'gaslighting'.
I wish to help educate family and friends of current and former cult members so that they are better able to understand the process of mind control and support their loved ones through recovery.
CULTS IN AUSTRALIA
Cult Information and Family Support (CIFS) estimates there could be around 1000 cults in Australia. They have supported individuals and families from over 200 cults over the past 20 years; these are only the groups that have been reported.
Cults are prolific and can be found in metropolitan and regional areas. In today's world of increasing isolation and a lack of a sense of meaning and belonging, it is not unusual to have a family member or friend who has been involved in a cult or to know someone who does.
A cult's extreme ideology can manifest via institutional religion, new religious movements, New Age spiritual groups, political movements, personal development companies, pyramid schemes, step programs, BDSM, or within a one-on-one relationship.
THE CULT EFFECT
A gripping account of the brutal impact of spiritual and violent extremism.
Carli McConkey was 21 years old when she happened upon New Age guru, Natasha Lakaev, and her personal development company, Life Integration Programmes, at the Mind Body Spirit Festival in Sydney, Australia in 1996.
What at first appeared professional and promising, became a vehicle for psychological and physical abuse.
Over the next thirteen years, Carli lost her freedom…her mind…and her family.
This book demonstrates the gradual and insidious process of mind control, gives insights into the period of recovery after escape, and shows how determination and strength can overcome adversity.
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An absorbing and informative account of an abusive Australian cult that needs to be read.
The Cult Effect is an honest, grounded and, more often than not, terrifying recounting of a young woman's 13 year journey spent within an organisation that sought to brainwash and mind control its followers into giving their finances, labour and selves to its leader. You really get a sense of 'seeing behind the curtain' here with this account being from within the circle that is more often than not only seen from the outside.
The result is a self-reflective telling of a story that explains how young people can be tricked into organisations and made to stay in them against their will. We see that these people are not at all gullible or easily fooled. It is the cults themselves that are clever enough to twist people until they don't know which way is up.
I admit I found it hard to put this book down. It's a credit to the book that such a distressing read can be so engagingly written and yet still retain its objectivity despite how deeply the author was entwined with the events. The statement at the front that truth often is stranger than fiction certainly holds its own here...
Henry Boffin (Goodreads)
THE EIGHT CHARACTERISTICS OF CULTS By Robert J. Lifton
The purposeful limitation of all forms of communication with the outside world. A closed system with rigid boundaries. Communication with the inner self is also controlled, i.e. what is acceptable to think and feel. Control over diet, sleep cycles.
Teaching that the group has been specially chosen to carry out a divine purpose and the recruit has been selected to play a special role in fulfilling that purpose. Uncritical faith and trust is expected.
The Sacred Science:
The mission of the group is considered sacred…not to be questioned. The group purports to have a body of airtight evidence to support its claims.
The Demand for Purity:
Since the Word, Idea, Mission of the group is sacred and pure, anything contaminating it must be eradicated. Anything done in the name of purity is considered moral and just, no matter how deceptive.
An expectation of baring one’s innermost thoughts and feelings in order to purge oneself of doubts and impurities. Since the leader and Mission are perfect, anything that goes wrong is the fault of the member. Confession rituals pervade the group’s atmosphere.
Loading the Language:
Thought-stopping clichés and jargon that compress the most complex of human problems into brief, highly reductive, definitive sounding phrases, which are easily memorised and easily expressed.
Doctrine over Person:
Convincing the subject that the group and its doctrine take precedence over any individual in the group or any other teaching from outside it. Individual boundaries are obliterated.
Dispensing of Existence:
Teaching that all those who disagree with the philosophy of the group are doomed. Use of splitting, we/they, taken to extremes.
Modified from Andres, R & Lane, J. (1989) Cults and Consequences. Los Angeles: Commission on Cults and Missionaries.